Unconditional love keeps Aamira going strong

Aamira: “Unconditional love is truly what keeps me going”

Written by: A Venus on December 28, 2010.
Last revised by: Dash on July 15, 2011.

I for one juggle many hats-mom, wife, career woman- but none of it would be possible w/out a strong support system.
My husband is my rock and my foundation, my daughter is my motivation (I live for her), and my family and friends are my inspiration. Unconditional love is truly what keeps me going. Van I have been together over 10 years straight now, and we are still happy. The road hasn’t been easy, but love has never been lost. Throughout our relationship we’ve never lost a sense of ourselves, hence why I was able to attend college and maintain a long distance relationship, study abroad twice, graduate and begin a career. Two words, unconditional love.

Nowadays, people are so afraid of losing themselves and “missing out” on something that’s not even there, rather than have someone there who is a constant support system. No one wants to put time and effort into love anymore. It’s not an easy concept. It takes diligence and desire to make love work. I am still an independent woman who happens to depend on my best friend and biggest supporter, my husband. And I never let society dictate my relationship. If I had listen to other other people I probably would not have the life I have now. Van probably isn’t the ideal man I should be with in society’s eyes. He is a blue collar worker and not college educated. But next to God he is my provider, my protector, my lover and friend. Because of his work ethic, heart and soul we were able to pay for our dream wedding without financing (can’t believe people actually finance weddings), own our own home, and raise our infant daughter and provide for her in a way we never thought of or had ourselves.

I wish women, especially black women, would take the time to really love. We put ourselves down too often, and don’t give ourselves enough credit. We walk around as if we always have something to prove. But newsflash, we were built to do this life thing! So black women, take charge! Think positively. Take care of your families. Don’t be afraid to be the backbone the black man needs. Don’t be afraid to be a mom who admits she needs help! yes, we are superwomen, but it doesn’t have to be done alone. To most people I have it all, but for a long time I felt the opposite. The truth is, “having it all” is relative. What I have is a partner who continues to push forward with me, who continues to encourage me to want more out of life, and who loves me for me, who still calls me beautiful on my ugliest of days, who puts his family first. I have an education, a job that pays the bills, and a support system of family and friends like no other. I may not have the career or salary I would like but I am content with MY life. So today I choose to focus on what I DO have. I thank GOD everyday for those in my life. I wouldn’t be the strong, independent, woman I am today, without first depending on God, my family, and friends for their continuous support, and unconditional love.